Couple Predicament

I caught many scenes between lovers that keeping the not-supposedly-be-secret between them. But one of caught most of my attention is 'who he/she is' moment. The lovebirds getting serious of their relationship or maybe on the phrase getting married, keeping a tiny secret that probably crashing their trust. Scene 1; Exes: Not telling your partner who your ex is totally classic. On some occasions, there the reason why your partner ask you to forbidden to invite the exes. But you feel like the exes allow to celebrate or pop up. Scene 2; Crush (or maybe good friend that you have feeling for): You feel like you're trying to make a peaceful moment of closure, but no. You still have felt to your crush (or maybe good friend that you have feeling for) and you though nah maybe I meet him/her again the book will be closing and you're not gonna open it again. The conclusion: Honestly, both of scene are pretty much about your partner not cheating but lies on your face. You cannot ask your ex to disguise. Somehow, that is unpleasant for the ex and dishonest to your partner. For scene 2, practically, it's kinda hard if you still keep in touch. The feeling cannot go away just like that. But if you try meditating your mind. I think it kinda works. Dump away the 'love' feeling and stick being a just friend or good friend. For your partner, I think it's kinda hard for him/her for knowing it and pity if you still keep it secret. It looks like you're cheating on him through your mind. Just don't make a scene.
p/s: It just comprehension of mine. Depends on you and your partner. xx